I Know You Don’t Want To

The weight of sharing our entire story is often too heavy of a burden, so we are providing a platform to share 1 chapter at a
time. @VLNRABLE

Let’s be honest, being vulnerable with anyone is enough to turn your pores into water faucets, isn’t it?

Let’s play a game:

  • Out of the blue you call your parent[s] and starting telling them about your firsts… Not first steps and first words, first time being drunk, first time having sex, maybe your first time doing drugs or choosing to harm yourself.
  • Think about standing up in a crowd of married couples and you have to share the hard parts of your marriage in front of everyone.
  • One last scenario: your pastor pulls you aside and asks you about the last time you watched porn, or read a romance novel to ignite your sexual fantasy, and he/she expects full disclosure.

Most of you are sweating & some of you want to throw up because somehow this feels like I know something about your life that I don’t actually know. Any one of these scenarios can be emotionally paralyzing, and in the moment it would feel more safe and self-preserving to not hang your dirty laundry out to dry. Although I know you don’t want to, and initially you may even think I’m lying, I assure you that stepping over the line of vulnerability is you fighting the fight for freedom. Freedom is possible. Personal transparency is a gateway drug to emotional liberation. This is why we’ve developed VLNRABLE, which is on schedule for a mid-summer launch in the App Store. You don’t need an app to be vulnerable, and you’re able to start this process at anytime, which is what I’m encouraging… start today. We believe that no matter how you embark on the journey you’re able to see incremental increase in your overall emotional state, joy and optimism will be tangible, & improvements in the depth of your relationships!

You may not know us personally, but you have a community of people who are putting ourselves out there for the sake of vulnerability, each and every day.

@dennisgable

“One of the greatest puzzles in life is figuring out the balance between our desire to be known and our fear of letting others in.” 

Are You Who You’ve Been Waiting For?

I was asked by The Healthy Primate to write an article for their newsletter – Check out THP & I hope you enjoy the article.

There are a few experiences that are universal to every human regardless of success, socioeconomic status, religion, race, age, or citizenship. The positive experiences include things like, happiness,  & love. There is also another list that doesn’t get nearly as much press, this other list includes things like shame, rejection, guilt, & anger. There isn’t much of a social network for sharing these experiences without also feeling the wrath and judgment from our fellow-man. You’ll hear more in a succeeding post about an app that will provide a safe, anonymous place for you to share these experiences without being beaten down by an internet troll, or put on blast by TMZ. But, until then what do we do with these memories, regrets, & insecurities that have an unfortunate grip on how we treat ourselves, the ones we love, and the world around us?

We start by finding refuge within ourselves. What I am not suggesting is that we justify the severity of our action to lessen the effect they have/had on us or someone else, rather, that we would explore and endure the trials of internal vulnerability. Maybe, just maybe, you are the person you’ve been waiting for to grant you forgiveness and grace. May I also suggest that it is your shoulder that needs to be drenched in your tears. This process comes adorned with a thoughtful alliteration:

Relive the experiences one at a time.
Resolve the emotional outcome of those experience.
Relieve yourself of the emotional responsibility in order to move on.

This process is not easy but it is simple, and with enough effort the residual dividends will be absolutely priceless to your future, and in searching for freedom from these experiential burdens.

In conclusion, may I make one last statement of intention: I am not suggesting or encouraging that we look at ourselves as our own saviors, or that we discard a spiritual deity during this process either. I am simply suggesting that the pursuit of emotional freedom may begin by having some serious dialogue with the man/woman in the mirror.

If you enjoyed this post, check out my PodCast!

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“for the good of man, to the glory of God”

How Does The World View Your Faith?

Earlier this week I published a RebelCast called The Perception of Privilege, and in it I tell a story about how my friend Michael viewed Christians before he became one himself.

The most simple way to say it is, “privileged”.

So, I simply want to spark some self-evaluation within our culture by asking this question, how does the world view your faith?

Are you relatable?
Are you understanding?
Are you accepting of people who live lives that make you uncomfortable?
Are you able to preach the gospel without using words?
Are you respected by your peers?
Are you comfortable being identified as a Christian in all settings?

If you need some perspective, ask some of your non-Christian friends or family members how they view your faith.

“for the good of man, to the glory of God”
+DG+

Listen Loud

I received a text message from a friend today who asked me to pray for his pursuit of Jesus.

Initially I was confused, because he is one of the most faithful men of God that I know. He is fair and loving to his wife. He treats his daughters like they are royalty. He works incredibly hard with very little complaining. And he’s an eternal learner.

Let me preface by saying that the story I’m about to tell you is a tragedy, however, it is not specifically a tragedy related to my friend.

A 31 year old Memphis pastor with a wife and two kids was sitting in his car, reading his bible with his coffee on the dash. He was preparing for a marital counseling session for a couple from his congregation when he experienced an unwarranted aneurysm. Multiple hours later, after missing his appointment with the couple, he was found dead in his car with the coffee on the dash and his bible on his lap.

My friend was impacted and baptized by this pastor, which makes it a little more personal and therefore provides a need to spiritually and emotional balance the unbelievable loss that Memphis, TN experienced.

When my friend and I spoke today, the Lord told me to communicate a movement of service. Holding back my tears I was able to tell my dear friend that he wasn’t far off the track, but that God wanted him to move his focus from learning to serving. From reading to hosting. From debating to discussing.

In this moment of despair, as he hopes to be remembered for more than how many books he’s read, my friend asks me about intimacy. About living a live where he is remembered for more than just his education, but his listening to Jesus and living out the gospel.

In response to the request of my friend, I told a personal story that I don’t tell often. I described to him the day that I first embraced a practice of praying in tongues as a spiritual discipline. It was maybe the most vulnerable day of my life in terms of living out my faith. I was scared. I was nervous. I was unsure. But I was willing to endure all of those emotions in order to experience an intimacy with my creator that I had only heard stories about. The reason I told him this story was not an old school charismatic ploy to get someone to speak in tounges, but it was an attempt at encouraging spiritual vulnerability.

My encouragement was this: “Ask the Lord to show you a picture or tell you a word for me, and be brave enough to tell me the first thing that settles on your heart.”

Less than an hour later I received a text message that encouraged my heart more than I expected. Beyond anything else, it proved to me that my friend, although in a relatively low moment of insecurity in his faith was both willing and able to listen to Jesus. Which, some would argue is the most important aspect of faith.

So, allow me to graciously encourage you, in the midst of your despair, to listen to the voice of God. The secret is that it may sound a lot like you, which means that you must rely heavily on spiritual discernment. This is not easy, my friends. A life of spiritual intimacy with your creator demands an interesting balance of risk and reward, of will and willingness. I believe in you, and if you need to take a risk at hearing, you’re welcome to take a risk with me. Send anything you believe is from God, including words, pictures, prophecies or otherwise to holler@dennisgable.com.

for the good of man, to the glory of God

+DG+